Many people are worriers, and know of family members who are worriers, as it tends to run in families, so may not think much of it. However, depending on the degree of worrying, it can be quite distressing or interfere with functioning, in which case it is called Generalized Anxiety Disorder, or GAD. Some of the symptoms that may go along with the excessive worry in GAD are: restlessness, feeling keyed up or on edge, being easily fatigued, difficulty concentrating, mind going blank, irritability, muscle tension, sleep disturbance, and symptoms of anxiety in general, such as lightheadedness, foggy or spacy head, racing thoughts, dry mouth, tight throat, tight chest, shortness of breath, chest pain, palpitations, shakiness, flushing, sweating, sweaty palms, discomfort in the solar plexus, including butterflies, nausea, cramps and diarrhea, pressure over the bladder, needing to urinate frequently when there may not be much there, tingling in the extremities, and weakness in the legs.
Obviously you do not need to have all or even many of these symptoms to have GAD. Generalized Anxiety Disorder is a condition which is treatable with medication and therapy, so you don’t need to continue suffering unnecessarily.
Worrying is not only useless; it is harmful. Whereas some people may believe at an unconscious level or even a conscious level that it is protective, it is in NO way protective, nor does it change anything except for causing suffering to the one worrying and those around. Planning, on the other hand, which is done from a calm place, if it’s necessary, is very useful.
Apparently, about NINETY FIVE PERCENT of what people worry about NEVER takes place, and the other 5% we have no control over and is not affected by the worry (except in possibly a negative way if you believe in the manifestation of negative energy). Worry is just a bad a habit, and fortunately can be unlearned. The majority of the time, things go well, and when we can trust that we can deal with what might occur (which is unpredictable), there is no need to worry.
Many people who have a habit of worrying know other family members and people who worry, and so assume that it’s natural to worry, and are surprised to find out that not everybody would worry in a certain circumstance.
Life with less worry is much easier and more pleasant for an individual and for those around them. More time and energy can be freed up to be enjoyed and devoted to constructive, enjoyable, or
creative endeavors, and to just enjoying being present in the moment with a relaxed body.
A good anti-worry antidote is to repeatedly install in your body, either with the inner resource or Emotional Freedom Technique or both (both articles on this blog): “The past is over, I am safe now. So I expect things to go well, and I can handle whatever might happen. So there is no need to worry.”
Even if you’re used to it, it doesn’t make it pleasant. If you feel your life would be improved significantly with less of the above symptoms, I encourage you to get help, as both medication and therapy can help, with a combination of the two often the most helpful. Your family doctor could be a good place to start.